Welcome to Counseling Services Direct for Marriage and Family Therapy. I would like to present ways in which you may consider learning new skills to communicate with important others in your life and share feelings, and thoughts. Communication appears to be simple, yet we at certain times we may have difficulty with the way we express ourselves to other individuals. Learning new ways to have effective communication in your relationship can lead to a positive outcome and much happiness.
- Using “I” statements helps one to take responsibility for their experience of the situation (Ex: “I Feel”). While “You” statements encourage reactivity and defensive behaviors from other(s).
- Using “Validation” suggests that you are using reflection when listening to the other(s). On the other side of validation is to ignore or to misinterpret feelings and words (Ex:. “being told something was said or felt when it was not”).
- Using “Editing” is a useful way to mentally rehearse a conversation (Ex: “Focusing on the topic”).
- Using “Timing” to effectively communicate (Ex: “setting aside a certain amount of time for discussion).
The list of techniques described above can help to improve communication in all relationships. The information in this article can be a helpful resource to increase understanding and share important information in relationships.
“Encouraging growth to improve and sustain positive relationships”
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Stacey Chernin, M.A., LMFT, CFT
References: Weeks, G.R., & Treat, S.R. (2001). Couples in Treatment. Techniques and Approaches for Effective Practice. Brunner-Routledge. New York, NY.
The previous material is important and benificial to maintain healthy relationships. I hope this information has been helpful and has awakened your awareness of the value they hold in providing a strong foundation for the understanding of the underlying factors related to positive bonding .