Attachment Issues

Welcome to Counseling Services Direct for Marriage and Family Therapy. Attachment is the way in which humans bond and form relationships with each other and is partly biologically programmed to serve early on as a survival mechanism. Early childhood attachments provide a foundation and model that impacts bonding behaviors and relationships in adulthood. Early attachment styles with a primary caregiver is often closely related to the way in which individuals interact and form romantic relationships in adulthod. According to the current research provided by the pioneers on attachment, seperation, and loss which includes both Bowlby and Ainsworth, there is a strong connection between the first years of life and the development of attachment styles which include secure, avoidant, or anxious-ambivalent. I would like to encourage you to consider the following elements to help you to address behaviors related to this topic.

  • Explore how to restructure and establish healthy adult relationships which are founded on secure romantic and passionate love that is based on intense positive emotions. (Ex: Developing attachments that are based on positive reciprocal interactions which encourages intimacy and secure attachment).
  • Establish a mindful perspective on the type of attachment styles in the relationship. (Ex: Create an awareness of the way in which affection and love is expressed by engaging in an objective observation of the relationship).

The previous points are important to provide you with information to help you to maintain well being. I hope this information has been helpful and has awakened your awareness of  the value they hold in providing a strong foundation for the health of your relationships.

“Encouraging growth to improve and sustain positive relationships”

Contact us at Counseling Services Direct for Marriage Counseling and Family Therapy and get started today: (O) 516-484-2829 or (C) 914-960-2723.

Stacey Chernin, M.A., LMFT, CFT

References: Feeney, J.A. & Noller, P. (1990). Attachment style as a predictor of adult romantic relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 58(2), 281-291.

We understand that taking the first step can be challenging. Go ahead and download our free e-book called 3 Ways to Emotional Wellness so you can get a feel for our approach. Then, call our office today at 516-484-2829 to set up a free 15 minute phone consult.